Lessons Learned from My Son’s Birth Mother
When I think about the story of how my son joined our family–my first experience with adoption–part of me feels like a real poser because I understand how fortunate I was when we got him, and just how...
View ArticleHow Did You Meet Your Child’s Birth Mother?
I spoke to an adoption attorney the other day and he had some interesting advice for couples who are hoping to adopt. (This guy knows his stuff–he only does adoptions and handles between thirty-five...
View ArticleOne Thing I Wish Every Adoption Attorney Knew
About six months ago I received a “Dear Birthmother Letter”–while it was for me, it wasn’t really for me because I wasn’t pregnant. It was from my friends who were hoping to adopt an infant, and they...
View ArticleAdoptive Mothers are So…
Adoptive mothers are so…what? Maternal? Sensitive? Optimistic? Domineering? Self Aware? Self Absorbed? Domineering? Vocal? Well, if you are an adoptive mother, or if you know one, you can fill...
View ArticleThe Night You Were Born
One of the books I always give to newly adoptive families is Jamie Lee Curtis’ Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born. It is such a sweet story of a mother telling her child a bedtime story about...
View ArticleHow Open?
I had a conversation with an adoption attorney not too long ago and we were talking about the relationship between birth and adoptive families over the long run. I have an open relationship with my...
View ArticleAdoption Triad?
I am on a mission this year, and this quest has to do with the expression, “Adoption Triad” when referring to the significant players in an adoptive arrangement. When talking about adopting a child,...
View ArticleThe “Perfect” Dear Birthmother Letter?
A month or so ago I wrote about a couple that has been trying to adopt for a number of years. They met with a prospective birth mother and were devastated when she ended up choosing another couple to...
View ArticleThe Hours In Between
When you have an open adoption and are fortunate enough, like my husband and I were, to be at the hospital when your child was born, you will probably understand this post and what I am talking about....
View ArticleThinking or Feeling
Here’s a question to consider: What is more important, your thoughts about something or your feelings about it? I’ve been thinking about this topic for a couple of days now….The part of me who spent...
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